To begin we want to let you know we are not professional Psychologist or Psychiatrist, we're not even therapist but we do have the experience and knowledge of our own life experiences and what we have learn through our life's long journey as Crossdressers and Transsexuals. We have even taught some of the professionals about who we are and why we exist as we do. Some of us have studied Transgenderism / Crossdressing for many years trying to learn and understand who we are and why we are who we are and why we have the desires we have.
We are here to try and help you understand your Transgender Children and other transgender family members.. We will help direct you to Therapist who will provide the needed therapy to help you and your children and other transgender family members cope with the Transgender life style and journey that your family members will take in their life.
Did they tell you or did you find out or do you think they might be but you are not sure ?
Is your child a transsexual, crossdresser, transvestite, transgenderist or are you not sure ?
Firstly, your child is still your child, whatever their age!!! They need your love and support now more than ever.
Secondly, it's not their fault, it's not your fault, it's not anyone's fault. In a society that polarizes gender into male or female there are bound to be people who do not fit either category exactly or who cross between the categories.
Thirdly, there are lots of different labels and definitions. Please don't let the labels confuse you or misguide you. Also, be aware that individuals can change their views over time.
Ten Tips for Parents and Caregivers of Transgender Children
Suggested by TransYouth Family Advocates
1.) Your child does not experience their gender as others may see them.
2.) This is significant and your child takes it very seriously
3.) Continue providing your child unconditional love.
4.) If you feel overwhelmed, get support and accurate information. You are not alone!
5.) This isn't about anything you've done or are doing wrong.
6.) This doesn’t mean your child is gay or lesbian. They may or may not be...sexual orientation is different from gender identity.
7.) The most current research indicates that in most children, gender identity variance is neither an illness nor a psychiatric disorder.
8.) It’s not important right now where your child is going to “end up” related to gender.
9.) Your child has every good chance of growing up to be an exceptional and successful person.
10.) Respect your child’s feelings about their gender identity above all else
Disclaimer
Parents of Transgender Youth
Your child will have learnt at an early age to hide their gender issues. They will have tried to conform to society's gender models. They may have married and had children of their own. Sometimes the mask slips and they let out signs of their gender dysphoria.
So you think something is not quite right and what should you do about it ?
Do you ask them ???? What would you ask them ??? Suppose you are wrong ??? Suppose you are right ???
General advice to those with gender dysphoria is not to tell others and not to tell their family unless they have to.
Why ? well once the "secret" is out it can never be untold. "Coming out" can have unpredictable consequences for all concerned.
Counseling can be useful, There are therapists around the country with experience of gay, lesbian and transgender counseling. Please do not be put off by the gay and lesbian connection. For many years the gay and lesbian communities have helped and supported the transgender community and share many of the same issues.
If you are worried about your child, worried about what to say to them, or not say to them, counseling can help.
There is an alternative, which is to join a support group, such as Rose's forum which has dedicated transgender people to help. It's an opportunity to find out more about transgender issues and to share your experience with other parents. You are also welcome to join the Beaumont Society ( A UK Transgender group) and the Women of the Beaumont Society. They operate help lines that may be useful for mother's of transgender people.
Your child has told you about their gender issues?
Firstly, don't panic !!!! There is a lot of support and information available for you and your child. The Internet has facilitated the development of local and national support groups, all within reach of your computer.
Secondly, talk to your child !!! This may not be easy, especially if they have spent years hiding this from you. The secrecy and breaking of trust can be very damaging to relationships. Remember that it is not their fault, it's not your fault, it's not anyone's fault. By supporting your child you can help them and yourself.
Thirdly, keep what you child has told you confidential. Keeping secrets is not good, it corrodes trust. However, there is a balance to be found between maintaining confidentiality and disclosure. In general, work on a "need to know" basis. Remember that once you have passed on the information, it can never be untold.
Parents of Questioning Children
FAQ
I can't stand the thought of making love with my husband when he is crossdressing. Do I have to?
No-one should be forced into a situation that they find intolerable. Anything goes in the bedroom ONLY as long as both people enjoy it.
I quite like making love when my crossdressing husband is dressed as a woman. Does this make me a lesbian?
No! You are making love to a man; this cannot be changed by the wearing of women's' clothes. However, it may be enough to satisfy your fantasies!
My husband wants us to be lesbian lovers and will only make love when he is dressed as a woman. I hate the idea; he says I am being selfish. Who is right?
He needs to understand that he cannot force you into a situation which you cannot tolerate. You cannot change your sexual orientation unless you feel that it is right for you.
Making love with my husband when he is crossdressed has made me think about my own sexuality. I now realize that I would like a female lover; not a man who dresses like a woman. How do I tell him?
He may be quite excited about the idea, or feel rejected. You will need to talk about how you feel your relationship is going to progress. A Relationship counselor may be a useful intermediary.
I've gone off my husband completely now I know about his crossdressing and I don't fancy him at all. Should I leave him?
This is a natural reaction but time often heals. Ask your husband if he is comfortable restricting his crossdressing to when you can't see it or be aware of it. Once you are no longer confronted with it you may find that you can re-establish your bond with him. Suggest that he joins a group where he can indulge his pastime regularly without imposing it on you.
I'm sure that my husband must be gay. He insists that he isn't but I'm not convinced.
Most crossdressers are heterosexual (about 75%). The other 25% are made up of gay, bi-sexual or celibate men. However, some crossdressers may adopt effeminate behavior when dressed. This is more to do with their GENDER identity than their sexuality.
My husband wants our young children to become used to him crossdressing from an early age. I'm not at all happy about this but he insists that it is better for them to be told properly rather than find out by accident. Surely young children should not be exposed to this?
Each family deals with this question in their own way. The perceived difficulty is how to ask young children to keep a secret if there is nothing wrong happening. Many children are told from an early age and experts believe that it is not at all harmful to them; children adapt better when they are younger. However, most families prefer to keep the behavior separate from family life.
Partners of Crossdressers
Children and gender identity: Supporting your child
What Do I Do? My Child Thinks She is Transgender
What Do I Do? My Child Thinks She is Transgender
Local York transgender Counseling
Dr. Debra Doubrava, PhD, LPC, RPTS, Licensed Professional Counselor
Heart work and Play, LLC
1800 E. Market Street
Suite B
York, Pa 17402
(717) 301-4263
Allie Kochert, MA, LPC, Psychotherapist
Rooted Growth Counseling, LLC
York, PA
717-910-3453
E-Mail.... [email protected]
Pa. Counseling - 301 W. Philadelphia St, York, Pa ... https://pacounseling.com/
Phone: (717) 848-6116
Fax: (717) 852-7580
Mark Pentz ... In Office Appointments
Elizabeth Trump ... In Office appointments
James Spangler, MS ... Virual Only at present
Teri Gotti Szubinski ... Virual Only at present
Heart 2 Soul Counseling
Tori Mackley, MS NCC
2217 Carlisle Rd, Ste 402
York, PA 17408
717-220-3227
EMILY WILSON ... PSYD
110 S. NORTHERN WAY,
YORK, PA 17402, USA
(717) 340-0872
E-mail ... [email protected]
Web Site ... http://www.dremilywilson.com/
Inspired Path Counseling
835 Edgewood rd.
York, PA 17402
Phone ... (717) 401-4329
More local York, Pennsylvania therapist and or psychologist to be added
What is Bigenderism
Bigenderism is a form of transgenderism discovered by Professor Vilayanur S Ramachandran and
Doctor Laura Case who worked with the Professor.. The Professor is Director of the Center for Brain
and Cognition at the University of California, San Diego. Together they discovered a form of Transgenderism
named Bi Gender ... (Bi Genderism). They renamed the novel Gender condition alternating gender incongruity" (AGI).
Click here for the Abstract for Alternating gender incongruity: a new neuropsychiatric syndrome providing insight into the dynamic plasticity of brain-sex
A Study of Bigenderism by Andreea Nica, Ph.D. in 2015
Sociology Professor
Western New Mexico University
Click on the link below to view her report on Bigender
The Transology Association
Introducing
The York Office for Transgender Affairs
32 North Queen Street, York, Pa.
We are a Non Profit 501(C)(3) Association Dedicated to helping the Transgender Communities and Homeless Population by Offering Free Education, Support Services and special programs for the Transgender Community
What is Transgender
Transgender Identity Terms and Labels ... Planned Parent hood ...2021
Transgender Identities ... 2021
Fregrently asked Questions about Transgender .... Year - 2015
What is the difference between being transgender and transsexual - Year 2020 .....
The term transsexual is not used any longer, it can be contentious and is offensive and should not be used to describe anyone
Understanding the transgender community ... Year - 2020
Overview - Gender Dysphoria ... Year - 2019
Well Span Transgender Assistence ... https://www.wellspan.org/new-search?q=transgender
Transgender Medical Health Centers and Offices
Transgender Mental Health
How Addiction Affects The Transgender Community
Hormone Therapy (HRT)
Planned Parennthood, Medical Center in York
LGBTQ services in York, Pa
728 South Beaver Street
York, Pennsylvania, 17401
Phone ... 717-845-9681
Web Site ... plannedparenthood.org
*Hormone Replacement Therapy Services in York, Pa. .... Click here for Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT)
For Health Care Providers ...
Click HERE to see the 3 Things Healthcare Providers Should Understand About Transgender Care ...
Transitioning Procedures and information
We can be your Life Line for Support and Safety
If you have had a bad day and having issues on your lifes transgender journey, if you need someone to talk to, if your having thoughts of suicide, if you are depressed because of family not respecting your choices or being rejected, if your having trouble at work just because your transgender, if your experiencing discrimination or being bullied, if your experienceing anything that is causing you to have irrational or sick feelings due to being transgender ...
You can call us for help. We can be your life line for support ... Just go to the contact section here ... ... do not hesitate to call us for help or Call the Emergency Crisis contact Numbers listed in the Emergency Contact Numbers list here ... Emergency Contact Numbers
We are here for you and the Community. We will try to help you as best as we can, thats why we are here
Regional Police York county
Located in: York Township Park
Address: 33 Oak St, York, PA 17402
Phone: (717) 741-1259
York City Police Department
Address: 50 W King St.
York, PA 17401
Phone: (717) 846-1234
Transgender Hot Line
State Police for York, Pa
101 N Main St.,
York PA 17403
Phone 717-428-1011
TTY717-428-0430
717-428-0430Dr. Rachel Levine giving a Seminar at Franklin & Marshall College on the Issues of Transgender Medicine Click Here => Issues of Transgender Medicine Video
Doctor Powers Video Lecture on Health Care of the Transgender patient ... 5/13/2019 ......
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The York Office for Transgender Affairs
Hours: 3 PM to 7 PM ( Mon - Fri )
32 North Queen Street
York, Pa 17403
The Transology Association is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit Association
Donations and Gifts are tax deductible by Local, State and Federal Laws
Copyright January 2021 - All rights reserved.
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We have posted a guest book on the bottom of the main pages in the web site for your convenience to enter your Comments, Suggestions and other Information you wish to provide for The Transolgy Association, York Office for Transgender Affairs and Homeless Services and / or for the Transgender Community.
Your imput is very important to us so we can improve our web site for you and help the the Transgender Community and the Homeless population... If there is something you would like to see added to the web site or something you would like to have started in the Community, Please ... let us know and we will do our best to get it accomplished. We are in the office 5 days a week presently from 3 PM to 7 PM to help you and the Community as best as we can and to the best of our ability. Everything we do for you and the Community is free of charge.
Contact E-mail - [email protected]
Is Transgenderism a result of Nuture or Nature, A Research Paper on Transgenderism
Wayne, Pennsylvania
Michele M Angello, Pre-Licensed Professional, PhD
Wayne Counseling Center
987 Old Eagle School Road
Suite 719
Wayne, PA 19087
(484) 893-0985
Research on the Transgender Brain: What You Should Know
Click HERE to learn what you should know about the Transgender Brain ... this link will also contain other Transgender important information. Just click on a subject in the menu to learn more about transgender information.
*Wellspan Gender Affirming Clinical Services for York, Pennsylvania
National Center for Transgender Equality, Pennsylvania ID Laws for: ...
Pennsylvania Name Change Laws
Pennsylvania Drivers License Policy & Procedures
Pennsylvania Birth Certificate Laws
The below links for name change are from the TransCentralpa.org Web site.
There they have some good information on name change procedures
Pennsylvania Name Change ... https://transcentralpa.org/resources_Penn_Name_Change.cfm
PennDOT & Gender Markers ... https://transcentralpa.org/resources_PennDOT_Gender_Markers.cfm
Transgender & Social Security Administration .. https://transcentralpa.org/resources_SSA.cfm
Check out these resources for more information on transgenderism:
Click Here to see Questions and Answers to Various Transgender Related Questions often asked
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Updating in progress
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TRANSGENDER MEDICAL SERVICES
Click Here >>> https://transequality.org/documents/state/pennsylvania
Eastern PA Trans Equity Project
Empowering
Transgender Pennsylvanians
Name Change Information, Procedures and Needed Forms
Anyone needing information and Forms for their name change can go to the Eastern Pa Trans Equity Project web site and download the Forms to legally change your name. Click on the following link to go to their web site .... https://www.patransequity.org/ ... The Eastern Trans Equity Project developed a You Tube Video about Pennsylvania Name change that would be to anyones advantage to watch wanting to change their name. The LINK to their You tube video is below...
You can thank the Eastern Pa Trans Equity Project for all their hard work and allowing us to post this information on our web site.
The Transology Association Inc., York Office for Transgender Affairs has created a booklet containing the information and sample forms for changing your Name and Gender Markers. The forms contained within the bookllet can be used for practice filling out the information on the forms. We have been told by those who have gone through the Pennsylvania Name Change Process that if there is just one mistake on any form you will be asked to start the forms over again. The booklet contains information on where to get your needed forms for Pennsylvania Name change, Drivers License Name and Gender Marker change, Birth Certificate and Social Security Name changes. If you would like a booklet you can come to our office and we will give you the booklet at no charge. It would be to your best interest if you would call us first and let us know you would like a booklet.
We may be low on copies and have to print you a copy out ...
Office - 32 N. Queen St., York, Pa,, 17403 ... Phone: 717-332-1247, Monday through Friday from 3 PM to 7 PM ...
Newspaper Ad in
York Daily Record and York Dispatch
NEW: Support Group for Parents of
Transgender, Gender Non Conforming
and Gender Questioning Youth
Time: Last Thursday of each Month
Starting Thursday July 28, 2022 at 7 PM,.
Doors open at 6 PM
Where: Heidelberg Church,
Enter at the back entrance,
47 West Philadelphia Street
York, Pennsylvania, 17401
If interested in attending this important
event please call 717-650-2247 -or-
Send a e-mail to [email protected]
thetransologyassociation.org for more
information and location
Please include your e-mail address
and or your phone number so we can
contact you.
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